In Divorce What About Them? The Children

It’s possible the man would find someone better than you and move on even without ever remembering you were once there, c’est donc la vie, and it’s always possible that you will move on too, find someone better and caring than him and continue your beautiful life, but what about them?

What about your children? Will they find another father or mother, they are the ones you should consider not yourself.

Divorce may not affect the man or woman that much, there are billions of women and men in the world to choose from, life the way it is offers endless opportunities, but are there even tens of parents? Not at all, we have only one parent, that’s why you have to consider them.

Remember your children before you walk away, their comfort matters more than both of you.
A woman doesn’t have the parental strength to raise a child alone, God didn’t place her in that position, it’s collective, you and him together, a wise man can’t abandon his children in the hands of a woman and walk away because of an inhuman factor called divorce, neither do you have to abandon your children with him to be raised in the company of a strange woman; a wise man endures and stays, a wise woman patiently bears it all.

With you and without their father isn’t a good decision, with their father and without you isn’t a good decision, so I say to you reconsider.

Reconsider because it isn’t good to make children pay for a misunderstanding they know nothing about.
Put yourself in that shoes if you were raised without a father or mother, crosscheck the way you would’ve felt, and examine the emotional damage, they get to school, other children came with their parents, mother and father, and you came without her, of course, other children will walk up to them, and ask questions like, “Dara, what about your mum, is she on the way?” They will ask her such questions for such a long time, from year to year, at home those smart kids, would approach their parents and ask, “Mum, what about Dara mum? I haven’t seen her in a while,” it won’t take forever years for them to find out, and your children become victims of bully in the school.

You brought them into this world together, you didn’t conceive all by yourself because you aren’t a virgin Mary, you both biologically agreed to bring them into this world, and you both should agree on every disagreement and stay together and raise them, this is the will of God.

I also understand there are situations where it becomes so hard and threatening to continue, in matters that concern life, but when your life isn’t on the line then there is every reason to wait, a good season shall come.

Divorce may not hurt you, but it will hurt the children permanently, so reconsider signing the divorce papers.

Kanayo Ebuka