Find Yourself Before

Before you go in search of a wife, first of all search for yourself, if you can find yourself then you can another, if you don’t know who you’re, it’s difficult to know another person.

She may look good in all things, beautiful, learned, humble, respectful, and kind, but these aren’t enough.
What is then enough?

Does her purpose align with your purpose, marriage isn’t all about having children and living together, that wasn’t the primary reason God set it up.

God set up marriage to enable Adam achieve his purpose, and for Adam to help Eve achieve her purpose likewise, this is primary reason, other things are secondary.

Marriage is a responsibility of God’s master plan for your life, there are things you can’t understand about yourself, there are things you can’t understand about your assignment until you’re married, not just married but married the right person.

God expects His children to make the right marital choice, in order to achieve His Divine plan on earth, marriage is delicate, if you choose the wrong person, you may not fully live the life you have been called to live.
Marriage isn’t saying “I do” it has the power to deform even the wisest, it also has the power to reform the weakest.

Be focused to find the right person, don’t panic in a rush to marry, what’s precious aren’t found in a hurry, take “One time” time you’ll succeed.

Your purpose is worth more than riches, let not material things decide your purpose, your destiny is worth more than what the eyes can see.

In search of a wife, you must microscope beyond the planes of what the eyes can only decide.
Knowing yourself first is like having a green leaf at hand, when you go in search, you don’t need to do acrobatics to find someone who bears the same green leaf.

Yes, I want to marry him, this is the first conviction, the next conviction should be, does his purpose align with my purpose?

Nobody can answer that question for you, it’s only you, no parent, sibling, or friend can answer the question, it’s only you.

Making the right choice all starts by knowing yourself first.
Even the animals God created them for a purpose, how much more humans? We’ve a greater purpose, to live a rather fulfilled life, you must stay in the lane your purpose.

Purpose in a simple explanation is God’s master plan for your life, the way He structured your existence even before you were born, it’s the divine work He has assigned you to fulfil on earth, there are steps He has set before you to follow and live that life.

To be fulfilled is to follow the steps, and it starts by finding the right wife or the right husband.
Marriage is the beginning of the fulfilment of your purpose, it could also be the end of your destiny, marriage can uplift a life, it can also diminish a life.

There were things God didn’t say to Adam until He got married to Eve, Adam’s life took a beautiful turn when Eve came, the coming of Eve determined his destiny, sadly it ended sadly.

Marriage is the beginning of the fulfilment of your purpose, it could also be the end of your destiny, marriage can uplift a life, it can also diminish a life.

There were things God didn’t say to Adam until He got married to Eve, Adam’s life took a beautiful turn when Eve came, the coming of Eve determined his destiny.

Your purpose is richer than the richest man, your purpose is richer than the most beautiful woman.
How rich he’s shouldn’t shake your feet into confusion, how beautiful she’s shouldn’t sway your mind, does his purpose align with who are? does her purpose agree with your assignment?

You can only ask the right questions when you already know yourself, moreover, many knew themselves and still decided to do otherwise.

Marriage isn’t one person succeeding and the other is stagnant, marriage is both persons succeeding, this can only be possible when there’s an agreement of purpose, but when there’s a disagreement of purpose the wife may be doing better than the man, or the husband doing better than the woman.

Adam didn’t do better than Eve, Eve didn’t do better than Adam, they achieved equal purpose, that was why when they fell they fell together because their purpose was equal and one.

The place of the man in marriage is higher than that of the woman, because Adam has been before Eve, but in terms of purpose both the man and the woman are equal, equal in the sense that they were called together in marriage by God to achieve one thing; God’s master plan for both of them on earth.
What’s God’s master plan for marriage?

To bring two persons of like purpose together to manage and take care of the world He created.
If men should stop getting married, just give it 100 years the world will become desolate and empty.

So marriage is God’s master plan for maintaining the world and keeping everything He made functioning, because of this, God is so much interested in marriage and He’s so much interested in you getting it right.

To start the journey of getting it right, you first have to know your purpose in your search, focus on finding someone who has a similar or the same purpose.

Know its purpose isn’t outward, so it’s something your eyes can’t see, it’s something God will reveal to you in signs and dreams.

Rebecca was revealed to Isaac in signs, different signs, she’ll be revealed to you in dreams and signs, pray God to give you a sign.

Pray God to give you a dream about him, so that when he comes you know he’s the one, so that when you see her passing you know she’s the one, when they saw Rebecca there were signs that pointed to her.

Rebecca was a starlight of beauty as the Bible recorded, King of Egypt saw her and said, I am taking this one, but remember she wasn’t chosen because she was beautiful, she was chosen because her purpose aligned with Isaac’s purpose according to the will of God revealed through signs.

Don’t choose because she’s only beautiful, choose because her purpose agrees with yours.
Don’t choose him because he’s rich, your destiny, your purpose is richer than riches, choose because he’s a copy of your purpose.

Yes, I know riches and beauty are necessary, the flesh desires them, but let them not be the basis of your choice.

It’s possible to find a very beautiful girl whose purpose agrees with yours, and it’s easy to be found by a rich man whose destiny aligns with yours.

There is nothing wrong with marrying a super beautiful woman, Abraham, Isaac and Jacob did marry super beautiful women, and they still achieved God’s divine plan for their lives.
The beauty was there but that wasn’t the yardstick of their choice.

It wasn’t riches that swayed Sarah to marry Abraham, besides even till 75 years of age Abraham wasn’t rich.

I write by the power of divine vision, I saw a wedding taking place, the bride standing in the front waiting for the groom to arrive, I looked left in the hall, I saw the groom coming with his best men, they wore black attire, as I was looking, a man walked up to the bride from the east wing of the church and said to her, “This man is the queue coming isn’t your husband.”

The girl stood there confused, she’d come to a point of no return, the wedding happened.
I speak the truth, it won’t take too long this girl will realise she married a man who’s an agent of darkness, I know the people I saw, it was clear, it’s uneven, I choose not to call names, time will reveal the name to the world.

In your search may God give you signs to find her, in your waiting may God give you signs to receive him, let purpose guide you above the manipulation of beauty and riches.

-Kanayo Ebuka