An Angel Can Not Change A Devil

If an angel can not change a devil, then the right woman can not change the wrong man, my dear don’t be that woman.

It’s common that people often suggest the right woman for a damaged man, but no one suggests a damaged woman for the right man, why? Many believe that the right woman can reform a damaged man, but no one believes the right man can reform a damaged woman, they suggest the right woman for a damaged man, here, I ask, has a woman become a rehabilitation centre where damaged people are corrected? I have heard many times people say “Let’s get a good woman for him, she will change him, and make him reasonable” they search for the right woman for a damaged man, most times unknowing to the woman if she didn’t bend to look.

She inherits the whole damage, her reputation and self suffers it for a lifetime. Don’t invest your energy to redirect a damaged man for marriage’s sake or whatever, when he took the destructive lane you weren’t there, and in this present you can do nothing. A damaged man has nothing to lose, but you have everything to lose, everything about you.

Will you be proud to present to the public a damaged man as a husband? What about your children? What future do they have with a damaged father? put all these into consideration first over your personal feelings and decision. For whatever reason it may be, age, business’ sake, or societal status, none is enough to push you into a marriage or relationship with a damaged man. Can a lamb tame a lion? no, if it doesn’t apply, in the same way, a right woman can not tame a damaged man. There are cases where a right woman changes a damaged man, for many who hold to that fact I give you that benefit, but it’s very narrow 1/200 cases, do you think you would be so lucky to be that “one number”.

Even a woman who has hundred PhDs can not rehabilitate a damaged man, go to rehab, there you will see many damaged men, they have been there for years, and the professionals haven’t changed them. Speaking to my Forex students, I told them ” A sane mind can not understand an insane mind, a normal human can not understand the thought lane of a damaged man or woman, what is damaged can not conform to what is right except on the reasons based on a miracle or divine intervention.

Most tellingly what I am saying is this, don’t say I will marry him and his damaged life and change him, yes you may, I believe your strength, but you may end up damaged too, for only two damaged people can live together. I have come to observe based on first-hand inquiry I made by asking, the reason some women chose to settle down with damaged men is based on three things; greed, sentiments, and sexual romance.

A damaged man has the strength of an animal in matters of bedmatics, maniacs prefer a damaged man for want of ceaseless satisfaction, she doesn’t care if she loses everything as long as she is sexually satisfied.

You and I know very well that most women prefer crazy damaged men to gentlemen, because of bodily satisfaction, some want to ride a yacht, live in luxury, some desire to be known in situations where the damaged man is from a famous family, no sane woman will choose to settle down with a damaged man outside these reasons.

Any bad habit you can not be comfortable with in the first place don’t hope he can change because of you, go and ask those who were there before you. Let there be visions and understanding for every choice you will make, and let there be the will to put your purpose in life first before any other self reasons.

– Kanayo Ebuka