C’est De Ma Fault?

It isn’t wrong for one to decide to remain unmarried when there is no direct or indirect influence.
Besides perceived and conceived ideas, there are about four main reasons that could keep a maiden unmarried beyond the usual line of expectation:

1. Toxic attitude
2. Fear due to failed attempts 3. Demonic manipulation
4. Divine plan

Here in time, I will discuss the first concept.
Some time I ago I met a maiden at Abuja, young, very smart, intelligent and pretty even from a distance, she was the PA to a friend, I looked at her, I felt like she’s too good to still remain single, so one evening, I asked her, “Do you wish to marry some day?” She responded yes, I asked again, “How many suitors do you have?” She said, “They come, make promises of marriage, before the twilight they’re gone, “What could be the reason?” She said, “She does not know about it all, they just come and go.”

From that thin distance, we often had time to talk once in a gap, after about several weeks, I was still behind the wall of her tone, “They proposed, made promises and left,” What could be the reason?

Of course you know not every problem is a spiritual one, so how did I solve it? I got into the shoes of those men, I set out a plan, staged a proposal, from I love you to will you marry me? She said, “Kanayo no, you’re Igbo, I am Idoma girl, your people too get sense, they don’t marry from Idoma” I said fine, I am not people, I am Kanayo.

Briefly, after about two weeks and some form of inept feminine prowess, she said, “Okay, when do you want to see my dad?” I gave no answer, because I wasn’t in for it, I said, “emmmmm, let’s see how it goes.”

I did this joke to free up her mind, bring her closer, so that I can see her true nature, so I started learning and observing things, in the end I discovered the reason men come and go.

It’s her fault, she has a masculine commanding attitude, she believes she occupies the same position with men, she talks without fear like a man, she doesn’t talk fearfully like a woman, this sort of attitude scares men away.

A man and a man can’t live in the same house, one will have to be a man and the other a woman for things to work out.

A woman doesn’t have that temerity to say to a man, “Sit down I am talking to you!” It’s totally absurd, you can do it in the office or public places but not in a domestic sphere, it back fires, except the man is a red nosed popinjay.

I also found out her no is no, yes is yes, even when she’s wrong, she doesn’t change her position, she’s stunningly stubborn.

She’s good in every other thing, choir leader, educated, beautiful, jovial, prayer warrior but the thinnest attitude messed these up.

You can be good all round, but if your attitude isn’t as good as you’re then it will be difficult for people to appreciate your being.

From season to season they come and go, because your attitude is still the same, change some attitudes, and things will change.

When men come, propose and go after a while, check out one of the things I listed herein, one could be the reason, solve it and be.

-Kanayo Ebuka